Thursday, March 25, 2010

Lesson for all

Was chatting with 2 friends from China and we were discussing about the difference in medical care between the two countries. One of them had recently undergone a minor surgery. She mentioned that chose the private option in the hospital to avoid the cumbersome processes. In turned she had to pay 5 times more of what the other subsidized options had to pay.

Then friend 2 said that normally, when a person needs to go for surgery, just before he/she was wheeled into the operation theatre, their family would stuff a red packet full of cash to the team of surgeons, nurses etc that would be operating on that patient. This helps to "ensure" quality medical care of that patient. Well, no one knows what are the statistics for those who did not survive the operation because their family did not give the surgical team the red packet. But no one dares to test the integrity of the system either. Most of the families would end up giving some regardless of how tough it'll take them to get hold of the money.

It suddenly dawn upon me that perhaps, that was the reason why my dad did not survive his heart attack. What seems to be a pretty mild case to me lead to his death in a foreign land.

Scenario:
1. discomforts throughout the day, rested in the hotel room
2. further discomforts after dinner, dad was brought to A&E, still pretty much alive
3. nurses and "docs" saw him and started CPR on him
4. heart rate came back on and off, CPR continued throughout the night from 12midnight till 7am
5. around 6am-7am, when it was time to change shift for the hospital staff, my brother-in-law was asked to take over the CPR
6. no defrilberator was used on my dad
7. pronounced dead early in the morning

After analyzing the situation with me, both my friends agreed that there was a possibility that things might be different if there was the red packet to the hospital staff.

a. dad was sent to this hospital under the recommendation of the tour guide
b. shouldn't the tour guide pick a better hospital?
c. shouldn't the tour guide advise them better?

To lose a dad is not easy.

To lose a dad in a foreign land is tougher.

To lose a dad and only to find out years later that perhaps, there was a possibility that he would still be alive today.... is a torture.

Yes, we'll never know the difference today.

But today, we can make the difference by sharing with all our family, friends, loved ones this same information:
Be ultra prepared with loads of emergency cash whenever you travel.
Be in touch with at least a couple of friends wherever you are.

You may never know all the local cultures and practices, some times all it takes is someone who knows to tell you to do the right thing at the right time and that makes all the critical differences.

Here's to all who have lost a parent. My love goes out to you. May the Lord bless their souls and give us peace in our souls!

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Sunday, September 06, 2009

Home Sweet Home

Being away from home this time was phenomenally different from our previous long trips. We got to stay in a house with cooking facilities and that really helped us to overcome all our home-sickness. Shows the huge impact FOOD has in our lives!

Which means to say... we din miss home that much! ha ha ha

But definitely miss the family & friends here!

Its great to be back! No more living out of the suitcase. No more expensive & salty food. No more ching-ching of the credit card like crazy (due to shopping...)

Never thought I'll feel overdose of shopping at the outlets, but 3 different outlets in 3 consecutive days really gets to you. Especially when you find better buys, more vouchers as the day goes by. It can get tiring with carrying so many great buys too.

Someone please remind me of my OD if I were to mention shopping again for the rest of the year. haha

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Monday, April 13, 2009

Crossing Borders

I din have much chances to travel when I was a kid. I recall listening with amazement to my primary school friends who used to travel every holiday to different countries, disneyland, white winters in snow, skiing, sakura flowers. I was even more amused when some of my school mates would skip school just to go on holiday. Being young and innocent was a strong advantage then because I never really knew what I missed hee.

As I have more opportunities to cross the borders, I was fascinated by the rich and vast diversity of cultures out there! (we dun get travel & living programs at home till 5yrs ago...)

I was impressed by how smart the Romans were, to build towns, cities, ports, libraries (with underground links to brothels), colosseums, even public toilets with proper sewage systems. All these were built more than 3000years ago! How clever they were!

I was awed by what man can do, building all the magnificent architectures all around the world.

Some experiences remain stuck with me for a long time like experiencing a turkish bath. Hee... you sit in a steam room to sweat it out until you cannot tahan anymore, then you jump into an ultra-chilling cold shower and back into the steam room again, jump into the cold shower again. Repeat at least 3 times. This process opens the pores on your skin and allows the dirt/toxins to be perspired out of your body. The cold shower helps to close the pores ( I think). Next you lay down on cold marble slab about the height of a chair and a huge turkish man will rub you with a foamy sponge. He will scrub and scrub you front & back until you can see the white foams change into slightly greyish foam (white+dirt=grey). Then he'll rinse you down with spring water. Feeling totally refreshed and 100% clean. It was such a treat!

More than 15yrs ago, when my parents decide to bring me to Lake Toba along with their friends and friend's kids. We were brought to a village on the island where they have unusual burial practices or rather, they do not bury the dead until the corpse is totally decomposed! We were brought to a special forest that had some species of the trees which absorbs the bad odour from a decomposing corpse. So when we were there with the guide explaining to us the varies degrees of decomposition, we were not infused by bad odour at all. I recall being fascinated by the various states of decomposition of the corpse and after about 1 month or so, when all the flesh/proteins are ingested away, leaving behind the skeleton, the family will return to collect the remains of the corpse. And do a proper burial for that family member. I can still recall how the corpse were neatly place in rows for the decomposition process.

Many other wonderful traveling experiences were made up of interacting with the drivers, stall holders, service staff of the restaurants, hotels, cab rides, museum attendants that we visit. The first hand interaction with the locals gives us a good sense of the culture of the place. The Italians are crazy drivers but totally polite on buses/trains, they will give their seats to any ladies. The French loves to sit outdoors to enjoy the sunshine and a good wine. The American meal can easily feed 2 Asians any time. The Thais are so polite and friendly with their gestures.

These are true first hand experiences of the people that makes up the cultural experiences for a traveller.

With the increase in foreign talent-scouting, can we say that Singapore is giving our tourist a true-blue first hand experience in Singapore? I walk into our Orchard Road malls, its flooded by service staff from neighboring countries who at times have difficulty understanding english. I try to ask about the discounts offered in Giordano (in Suntec City) and was greeted by "可以說華語嗎?" Instantly, I felt as if I am not in Singapore! Our first language in school is english, how come I cannot speak that in our own malls to ask a basic question in the shop? In almost all the service centers that I've been to for the past 6months, I have yet to be served by a Singaporean. We are talking about Starhub, M1, Sony Ericsson etc.

Even the hawker centers are now flocked with foreign talents, I get ultra salty fish soup from more than 1 food stall wondering if I'm actually tasting overseas version of our local delight. I find it really weird to imagine that I'll be eating prata prepared by a non-indian, can we really say that its one of our favorite indian cuisine if its no longer prepared by our Indian friends?

This phenomena does not limit itself to within our shores, when I was in Guangzhou a few years ago. My relatives who were native folks there shared that they can no longer place their orders for food in cantonese (native dialect in Guangzhou, China) because most of the service staff that works in restaurants are no longer native folks of Guangzhou. These service staff comes from other parts of China with little comprehension of the Cantonese language so hence part of the culture of ordering food in Guangzhou was lost. Its pretty different experience to order dim sum like xiao long bao, har kao, siew mai, lor mai kai etc in Mandarin. Part of the fun of ordering food in dim sum places is in the use of Cantonese itself as we do not have much opportunity to use it in Sg. So you can imagine our immense disappointment.

When we were in Chiang Mai, Thailand, we were lured by the travel agents to visit the elephant reserves along with the visits to the tribal villages of the Long Necks and Big Ears. So thrilled to visit the natives of the rural outskirts, we had to wait till our necks were long for this part of the itinerary as its the last bit before we head back to our hotel. What was disgusting about the "visit" was that these "tribal folks" are not thais! They belong to tribes outside of the Thai border. They were the foreign talents lured by monetary rewards to display their native practices of inserting metal rings around their necks as a sign of beauty and enlarging their ear lobes by wearing heavy earrings (2 separate tribes). The "village" is a poor attempt to mock their homes with attap houses built on stilts, their tribal clothes were like uniform to them. Those who were not "on-duty" that day wore normal tee-shirt & jeans like any regular folks. What was worse is that they were not allowed to leave the premises on their own, almost like a form of imprisonment!

The benefit of these foreign employment is beneficial to the business owners as it reduces their operational cost for manpower. However, it totally removed the joy of interaction with a native for a tourist. We are unable to fully immerse in the culture of the place. Which leads me to my next question:

What's the point of traveling?

When my prata is no longer flipped by an Indian man in his sari?

When my dim sum is not ordered in Cantonese?

When my sushi is not prepared by a Japanese Chef?

When its just a job for them and not a passion of sharing the rich culture of the place?

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Tuesday, October 16, 2007

Baby A learns Hokkien & Intelligent english

What do you do with kids on a long long road trip?

You teach them new stuff....



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Baby A learns Hokkien

this series of videos are inspired by a road trip that embraces our local delights and dialects...

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Tuesday, September 04, 2007

I would LOVE a HENK!











isnt it such a cool suitcase erhm bag erhm HENK???

check out the Henk website for more information.

btw, I wont mind receiving one of each for my bday & xmas for the rest of my life.... the cases costs USD$20k each, with a long line of waiting list, only sold 50+cases in their past 4yrs of operation...its another one of those Hermes bag syndrome...

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Wednesday, August 22, 2007

Travelogue Series : Perth





















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Two very expensive bottle of water...



do not be fooled by their ordinary looks, small petite size that holds about 250ml of pure distilled water.

Normally they cost about 3 for $1 at supermarkets.

Here we paid $6 for two of them. That is $3 for EACH bottle.

did you hear my heart in pain??

*ouch*

all because of the silly rules of NOT allowing passengers to bring their own water supply onto aircrafts!

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Saturday, August 18, 2007

3 no 4 no 5 places which I would love to visit

1. Bahamas Beach - Stay at Alantis Resort

It has the largest underwater marine collection of over 500,000 marinelife, with some of its collection yet to be named. The simple knowledge that the manta ray is waiting in a giant tank for you to discover it is awesome, I dun have to put on my wetsuit (which usually takes a long long time), dive underwater and wait for it to appear, I can simply walk up next to it. So cool!

It has got giant slides that runs through the giant marine tanks as well, wont it be cool?? Never tried that but I definitely want to!!


2. Egypt - Pyramids

I have heard about this cleverly designed building since a kid, got more fascinated with ancient architecture after a trip to Turkey and realised that history CAN be so rich and full of amazing facts and some fairy tales... Nonetheless, the Pyramids are definitely worth the trip as the last reminding ancient wonder of the world. I was at some of the other ancient wonders of the world previously but found that I was just standing on a pile of rocks, altough the view was inspiring, it was hard to imagine its magnificance.



3. Japan - Tokyo

Since my fetish for Peanuts started, I have been dreaming of going to this city that is crazy over comics characters. Its rich rich diversity of creative juices spilling over every corner of its street is going to be an exciting journey. Each visitor to Tokyo always returns with something about the place that amazes me. Language barrier might be an issue if we visit it Free & Easy style... However, I am sure that I'll need extra luggage space to lug back all my Peanuts favourites hahahaha.... so I can only visit Tokyo when I can afford to purchase whatever I like.... which might take a long long time to happen.

Anyone interested to donate to my Tokyo discovery fund? I'll blog and blog for your money's worth!! *promise*


And my MUST visit place..... Snoopy Town!!



This blog started out with 3 places which I would love to visit..... then I remembered something else!! So here's no. 4!!

4. China - Xi'an: Terroracotta Army

I was very fascinated by the scale of the "fake" army that was built. The amount of energy, resources, money that was poured into ensuring a protected afterlife, the obsession with wealth and grandeur of his death is almost madness to think about. Yet this one man did it.

I was told my R that: today, there are still many many MORE underground tunnels and army/slaves/rooms that were being discovered. There were so many of them that they were uncertain what to do with the newly discovered "treasures". Instead, they were covered up again as determined by the state as to prevent modern day pollution and rapid degradation.

I have not known anyone who has visited this unique army that has a bad review of the place, I am guessing it will be very well worth our time there. I want to spend like 3 full days there.... maybe I will change my mind later... but who cares?? Let's get there first!!



5. South Africa - Wildlife

Wah, this has always been a dream to sleep under the stars in a tent with the giraffes as my "pets", elephants in my backyard and tigers roaming around.... feels like in some movie!! I'm picturing a clear night filled with light from the bright stars. Perhaps also to meet someone with an interesting name?? hee hee

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Tuesday, August 14, 2007

Travelogue Series : Beijing









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Wednesday, March 14, 2007

Jen's Bday Bash in BKK

YEP, this year, Ad gave me a huge treat to be away for once during my bday, I havent been there in like 15years, so my memory of this place is like temples, flooding market and trees lined up along the road that was not green but GREY haha.

All these changed during our short stay in this city now filled with activities for a tourist...












can you guess already? BangKok lah! haha

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