Can we really change?

Had a dream last night about a strong argument with a stranger on change. This person is in his 50s or 60s, carried a backpack and was insistent that he cannot change himself to be a happier person. That all his ways are set.

While me on the other hand, was trying to convince him that he CAN change his mindset, his perspectives to seek a happier outlook of life.

Can we really change?

Must we really face some serious, major catastrophic events before we will come to a realization that one can continuously evolve to combat the ever-changing world?

Paradigm shift. How can we achieve that?

I wish for more of my friends out there to be more adventurous, to try new experiences to enrich their lives. I wish for more of my friends to be more open-minded and not draw that thick boundary for themselves, limiting their thoughts, actions, defining their lives.

I do not mean for people to start flirting away (only OK if u r still single hee) nor get entangled romantically with 3rd or 4th or 5th parties.

Instead, try a new experience each day and embrace life with more positivity. Learn to let go of things/events/situations that you cannot change. Learn to appreciate people for their strengths. Be civic.

I used to have a pretty tunnel vision about the world and life. Christ has really enlightened me that I can be happier if I learn to let things go, learn to see life from His angle, learn to live life from His angle. I get frustrate at times. I get annoyed mostly. Only because I care so much to want the best for each person.

10years ago, Jen was a fiesty, hot-headed person. No real friends around but lots of party folks. People gathered around for the company, but hardly anyone would ask you "how's your day". Things started to change when a series of events happened at home to the point where I was not only physically strained, but also emotionally drained. I started to attend RCIA classes and found solace in the pain that I was seeking. Then MORE things happened at home, till I was so drained, that I dropped out of my weekly RCIA classes. And naturally, I got into a bigger mess! In the following year, I was determined not to drop out of my classes and making that commitment was a huge step towards building a new Jen.

I have completely mellowed down. Ha ha... yah, mellow is the word that my friends describe me with now. For those who have witness how I was before. And these are the folks who has worked hard towards maintaining our friendships through the years. And these are the folks whom I will miss dearly when I'm not around anymore.

So, if I can change, so can YOU hee.

Think of areas in your life that you are unhappy with, especially those for a really long time. Ask yourself if its because of your own stubbornness, or upbringing or other factors that cause this recurring unhappy situation. Look at ways to overcome this unhappiness and do it!

It takes alot of courage to shed off your old self to move into your new untested self. Be sure that you'll be happier once you step out of it.

We need to evolve in mindset too people!