Wednesday, March 31, 2010

Living with our past

We came across a piece of lip training device that have been scientifically proven to solve a few issues. Oya the director for Parataka lip trainer explained the importance of para-sympathetic nervous control with sympathetic nervous control in our body. He share with us how 3-4 times training of our lips with their patented lip trainer can help reduce snoring after a couple of weeks, reduce morning dry throat syndrome, choking syndrome etc.

This lip trainer acts to strengthen some facial muscles which leads to training the para-sympathetic nervous system. With the strengthen facial muscles, it opens up the airways to the nasal pathways, increasing blood flow to the brain. As a result, one will wake up feeling fresher.

He also explained why some people have sudden quicken heart rates, this is due the the drop in oxygen levels to the brain and therefore the brain tells the heart to beat faster to increase the blood flow thereby increasing the oxygen levels to the brain. We all know that oxygen is require to sustain our very complex neural system. Otherwise, we'll be vegetables, brain dead.

This device is said to reduce high blood pressure, reduce snoring at night, reduce frequency to the bathroom, reduce choking syndrome, improve Alzheimer's disease, down syndrome, autism, speech and many more.

More information can be found here.

Why Living with our past as the title of this blog?

Because we came across this device together with Godma. Godpa left us last Nov, some of the difficulties he was experiencing were swallowing food. This lip trainer would have given him more relief from eating his favourite food if he had used it. Godma was once again saddened. You can sense that disappointment of WHY din we find this earlier?

Once a person leaves us, we cannot turn back the clock. There'll be endless times when we asks ourselves why din we do something for that person. Why din we come across something earlier.

We are only human. Only we ourselves know whether we've done beyond our best in any occasions. God knows that too! And He knows us before we know ourselves. Its all part of God's plan for each of our experiences, be it good or bad. We pass on what we've learnt and pray that our loved ones would not commit the same mistakes that we did. And if after trying our best, they still do, we can only interpret it as part of God's plan for them. It is not for us or anyone to decide what another person does. We can only do our best for them.

And when we've done our best, we'll have to learn to stop torturing ourselves with all the "what ifs". Instead, learn to really widen our horizons and move on. Focus on what's ahead, what's important.

God, I pray for strength to carry on each day, looking forward to what You have put in place for me. I know that You will not let me walk alone in the dark shadows nor leave alone to face adversities. God I pray that you'll give us wisdom to learn what is important and what is not for our days ahead. God I also pray that you'll hug my father's soul tightly and I take comfort that he is with You. For all the things that I did and did not do for my father, I ask for Your forgiveness. Please grant us peace in our days.

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Thursday, March 25, 2010

Lesson for all

Was chatting with 2 friends from China and we were discussing about the difference in medical care between the two countries. One of them had recently undergone a minor surgery. She mentioned that chose the private option in the hospital to avoid the cumbersome processes. In turned she had to pay 5 times more of what the other subsidized options had to pay.

Then friend 2 said that normally, when a person needs to go for surgery, just before he/she was wheeled into the operation theatre, their family would stuff a red packet full of cash to the team of surgeons, nurses etc that would be operating on that patient. This helps to "ensure" quality medical care of that patient. Well, no one knows what are the statistics for those who did not survive the operation because their family did not give the surgical team the red packet. But no one dares to test the integrity of the system either. Most of the families would end up giving some regardless of how tough it'll take them to get hold of the money.

It suddenly dawn upon me that perhaps, that was the reason why my dad did not survive his heart attack. What seems to be a pretty mild case to me lead to his death in a foreign land.

1. discomforts throughout the day, rested in the hotel room
2. further discomforts after dinner, dad was brought to A&E, still pretty much alive
3. nurses and "docs" saw him and started CPR on him
4. heart rate came back on and off, CPR continued throughout the night from 12midnight till 7am
5. around 6am-7am, when it was time to change shift for the hospital staff, my brother-in-law was asked to take over the CPR
6. no defrilberator was used on my dad
7. pronounced dead early in the morning

After analyzing the situation with me, both my friends agreed that there was a possibility that things might be different if there was the red packet to the hospital staff.

a. dad was sent to this hospital under the recommendation of the tour guide
b. shouldn't the tour guide pick a better hospital?
c. shouldn't the tour guide advise them better?

To lose a dad is not easy.

To lose a dad in a foreign land is tougher.

To lose a dad and only to find out years later that perhaps, there was a possibility that he would still be alive today.... is a torture.

Yes, we'll never know the difference today.

But today, we can make the difference by sharing with all our family, friends, loved ones this same information:
Be ultra prepared with loads of emergency cash whenever you travel.
Be in touch with at least a couple of friends wherever you are.

You may never know all the local cultures and practices, some times all it takes is someone who knows to tell you to do the right thing at the right time and that makes all the critical differences.

Here's to all who have lost a parent. My love goes out to you. May the Lord bless their souls and give us peace in our souls!

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Thursday, March 18, 2010

I have so much to be grateful for

The past few weeks is just nothing short of being amazing. Things occur at whirlwind speed yet there was so much positivity in the air. There were some dangerously low points but yet it was turned around by God's grace.

Indeed God is the one who performs miracles where we thought that everything was impossible.

Thank you God! You are the BEST!

Just to give a short summary:

1. We put ourselves in the danger of losing $10k but God turned it 100% around for us.
It was a lesson to learn not to be hasty with God's money.
And never to make any major decision when we are tired.
Always always pray to God to ask for HIS opinion and listen hard, watch out for the smallest signs that may tell you NO.
Always always be prepared.
Better to be safe than sorry.
I counted about 5 hints from God to tell us NO but we totally missed them.

2. By the end of the week, God has showed me that if I am willing to put aside my own tiredness, laziness, He will reward my hard work. And He did. In 3 days, I've met up with some amazing people and closed my 1st property deal. God is really good to me. I did put my 1st ever exam in like 8yrs at risk by that deal. I figured there'll always be another exam I can sit for but there may not be another great house for my client. With that thought, it cleared all pathways and we had the most amazing time taking the exam. Waiting for the results is the scary part......

3. With that 1st deal, I was able to fulfill my dream of giving my family a treat. Its been a while since we all sat down together to eat. We had a jolly good time. I'm thankful for the opportunities that God has created to keep our family bonded together. God is really good. He's ahead of anyone of us with His plans.

4. God knows when we're ready to be parents and He decides for us. There were times when we were impatient. There were times when we were ignorant. There were also times when we were doubtful (maybe it was just me). God used so many lessons to show me to have complete trust in Him. And in Him alone. When I can do that, there is such a sense of peace and comfort from the Holy Spirit. And that's when I knew I was obeying to the right one.

5. In this season of Lent, I was inspired to do something less conventional. Instead of fasting, I spent the day thinking about a theme centered around a group of people in my life.
On Mondays, I think of children, all the little children around us, I talk to God about their needs and pray for them.
Tuesdays, married couples are my focus. I ask God to show me how to make our marriage a more loving one. How to be a more loving wife. Who are the model couples that we can learn from? And who are those in need of a prayer as well.
Wednesdays are for individuals, some have work-related struggles, while others long for a partner to share their lives with. So have problems with addiction. I ask God to watch over them and guide them towards their path. Help to know more of what God can do for them.
Thursdays are for elderlys, so many dear ones are aging faster than we can remember. I would think of each of them and ask God what good lessons can I learn from each one of them? How can we do our part for them? And most definitely, I would ask God to always watch over them, protect them from harm, keep them healthy & strong. For those who are unwell, to recover with God's mercy & grace.
Fridays are for anything under the sun. Love this day because its also the end of the week. Anything can happen. And ALOT of things did happened on Fridays.
With this practice, I realized that I was talking more to Jesus in my heart. Leaning closer to Him and learning to be more of a servant like Him.
Just a simple idea with such a wondrous reward. God is truly amazing!

6. I had kinda a slap in my face which I dun think I deserved. In my shock of trying to figure how much responsibility should I take for getting the "black mark", God put my manager in that same space as I was. (My manager was not supposed to be in office that night and God put him there) So my manager witness or heard the whole conversation and shared that I did the right thing by protecting the interest of my clients. I found comfort in those comforting words, God knows how important that was for me and He gave them to me through another person. And learnt to play the positive tunes in my head more to drown out those negative ones. I'm definitely still on the road of learning to be a better person. But definitely there's alot to be grateful for in this life time.

7. I closed another deal last night!!! It was such a total surprise as I just did my best juggling tight schedules to fulfill my role as a wife, daughter + friend. With only 3hours of sleep, I did the best I could, thankfully I had some very forgiving clients who did not mind me getting lost in the jungle of many flats. It was so unbelievable. The best part is, the co-broke agent was a jolly soul. Such a joy to meet another jolly soul. And the BESTEST part is, I learnt that my friend's mum is a believer in Christ!!! I'm so happy for her! I'm happy for my friend too!

The 7 wonders of my life for now. More to come I'm sure!

So dun hesitate so much anymore, start walking closely with God and He'll show you endless miracles & surprises!

God provides!

Thank you God!