Thinking Out Loud

Would you prefer to look towards the positive aspect of things or towards the darker shades?

I grow up with alot of dark shades whenever there are doubts, naturally the worse-case scenarios flashes across the mind.

The good thing with such a mentality is.... I'm always prepared for the worse-case scenarios, making extra efforts to avoid them.

The flip side of it? When things turn out well, I cant derive much joy or happiness because the mind has been flooded by too many what-ifs.

In growing up, meeting a large diversity of people with varied outlooks and personalities, I've seen how a positive mind, a positive heart and a positive soul does to others around them. They are practically infectious beings filling the air with laughter, with an ability to take things in their stride. Spreading a message that "everything's going to be ok" or "nobody's going to die from this". Not that they over-simplify things and live in denial, but they make it a choice to stay positive ahead of adversities. Which at times, this positive attitude can be life-saving.

Today, I received a call from M, telling me of her horror experience of weakened joints, deteriorated muscles that kinda gave way when she went out. Over the years, I tried explaining to her that she needs to get out of the house more often, take walks, strengthen those fatty legs of hers. But all went to deaf ears. Now she experienced this weakened state of health, she's demanding for attention, medical relief, afraid of what it means in the long term but never once suspecting that this experience is inevitable with her lifestyle of slacking at home.

There are excuses of "old people are like that", "rhumethesium", "i'm tired", "i'm giddy" etc etc.

Is it really true that aged people experience so much aches and pains NOT a result of their own inability to keep themselves in good shape but simply because they are old?

I've seen a couple of elderly folks who are perfectly happy and healthy, living everyday to the fullest, not having a care for their age.

So could it be the majority of the old folks who have endless complains about their health, their bodies etc simply not wanting to take responsibilities for themselves?

hmm..... what would I be like when I'm 70?