2 Ears 1 Mouth

Had a conversation yesterday that highlighted that we were born with 2 ears and one mouth.

Best part is, you can CLOSE your mouth but not your ears......

What does it mean?

hahaha..... listen more and speak less lor!

there's this chinese saying that describes how "trouble" starts from the mouth...
禍從口出

Then there's another saying that says how we often turn a deaf ear to good advice...
忠言逆耳 利与行


how true how true.

Imagine you are in some sort of trouble, you have some BIG questions that you cannot answer like:
What am I doing here?
Why do I always get "bullied"?
Why should I always be doing this or that....

If you have the choice of finding someone to talk to/vent out your frustrations, you would want THAT someone to agree with your perspective! You wont want to spend 1hr talking to someone telling you how wrong you are, the mistakes that you've made and perhaps the real rationale of why the others "treat" you that way.

If anyone has a choice, one would go for the pleasing sounding "friend" who would sayang you, nurse your wounds instead of cutting it deeper.

But is that true friendship?

Sometimes, when we listen, we are really only listening to one side of the coin, we cannot really "judge" who is right or wrong, because we maybe mis-interpreting the situation.

I often run into such situations at times, saying things that maybe I should not. sometimes wondering if I am actually helping the situation or not.

So i have to consistently remind myself, I really dunno any better... and if I am a true friend, I should tell my friends how I really feel and THEN sayang my friend haha....