friendships

through the years, we've seen lots of friends come and go. many stayed on and became part of our daily/weekly lives as well. its amazing how two person can connect and feel strong affinity to share every bit of their lives together for a short momentary period of time and almost instantly break away from each other.

recently, i recieved a parcel from a friend from school, it was really strange to recieve this parcel from her, especially since we live a few blocks away from each other. interestingly, except for the ONE time when she was curious how my place looked like, she has never had time/found the opportunity/remembered to drop by. Of course I was also at fault for not trying and keep trying to get in contact. thing with her is, over the years, i've learnt to let go of her, she's like a free bird, she needs to soar the skies, feel the strong winds in her face, breath in the warmth of the sunlight, without an adventure, she'll most likely be bored to death. i guess, over the years, my role/friendship has became more of a communication updater tool. without much to update, i gradually became less exciting to "connect" with. at least, that's how i felt on my side. we've had our differences before, not that i can exactly understand what she meant, perhaps i can never understand her way of being friends.

after so many years, i must say, that she's always been generous with her gifts, no matter where she went, she'll always try to bring back something for me. at times, i look at her gifts and wonder if she just took it out of a whole bag of "gifts", would i ever have a use for them? finally, this time in this parcel, there was finally something inside that reminded me that she actually remembered what I loved. yes, you may have guessed, its SNOOPY of course! yes, i was thrilled to recieve something, at last, that reminded me that i actually have a better place in her mind than i thought. maybe it was time to savage what's left to the friendship...

then, there was a card, inside, wrote alot of pretty personal stuff most of which i cannot understand. the last time we met up was more than 2years ago. i can barely remember what was her favourite activity, what makes her cry anymore. but the card woke me up. i realised that she was in need of someone to pour her heart out to, without having any judgement.

i guess, in the corporate world, there are lots of cruelty & abuse of trust, such that one treasures those long-lost friends even more. its been a while since my foot was in the corporate world, but it'll be the last thing that i'm looking forward to. i cannot imagine how people can work side by side with someone else and go round back-stabbing them. how do they sleep at night? what do they tell their kids? where is their conscience?

i'm sure we can still find true friendships at work, we just have to look really hard before committing ourselves. I have quite a few and I'm glad that we stuck through, the warm fuzzy feeling of a true friend always warm me up on a cold day.

yes, you know who i'm talking about, you know who you are. thank you for your friendships, trusts, for sharing your joys and pains and for sharing mine too! :-)

so, have you been a good friend today?