Do we get uglier as we get more famous?

I'm begining to wonder about the moral and mental state of a person as they get more senior in their field of work.

Two incidents sparked off this chain of discussion round the table...

First:
In my workplace, we have a few entrance and exit points leading to other offices, to minimise confusion, we were advised to lock all the side doors and use only the main entrance. So I have a tendency to question the people who walks in through these side doors (as they can be opened from their side =[) for their purpose and advise them on the appropriate route to take in future.

There is always this group of folks who would turn a deaf ear to my friendly advise and makes my blood boil whenever I see them coming into through the side doors. And they often are the "old foggies" who have been in the organisation much longer than I have.

I believe, regardless of seniority, the basic respect towards another person's work space should be given. Being senior doesnt mean that you can walk around into other's office without notice and without evening giving the simplist explanation. Its not just disruptive to our work but also extremely distrubing! I have to worry about the loss of equipment or our personal items through these side doors. If the "old foggies" do not set good examples of the safe use of the work environment, how would the maintenance guys, the sales guys, the cleaners and God knows who CARE?

Once the habits are established, its tough to reverse it. And I just do my best to try to avoid missing items. I got a "showface" when I tried to question one stranger who was walking through my office as if it was common corridor.

Initially I just asked if I could help him, since he ENTERED my bloody office. Then his steps started to quicken as he made a dash for the next side door. I started to raise my voice (in case he did not hear me the first time, which is NOT possible since he gave me the "HUH?" look). So I inquired his purpose for coming through and he almost broke into a sprint for the door! ha ha ha...(no at that time, i was fuming mad at how easily these people take ANOTHER person's work space for granted)

Then, a head appeared, a senior staff from the adjacent office popped the head into my office and declared that the boy was looking for her. Fine, I AGAIN advised her that the side doors are strictly not for use for safety reasons. However, she gave an interesting reply. She mentioned that the original route to her office was blocked by other officer using that room and hence our office was a shortcut she would advise all those looking for her to use!

Very funny! Because she does not want to disturb another fellow officer in his work, she chose to disturb US! Is that even logical? Or acceptable? What does she take us for?

We coined a term for that behaviour... in english we call it Arrogance. But it doesnt seem to give it the Opmh that it deserves... so we used a mandarin word called "zuai" (3rd sound). That word cannot be more appropriate for the situation.

Next incident comes from our experience in Snow Wolf Lake, we mentioned about the semi-local celebraty that has appeared in all local media before, on the newspapers, he was often consulted for comments in his specialty.

At the end of the show, we had two options of leaving the venue, either walk up a long flight of steps where we came from. Or go downwards and add onto the existing crowds departing. Being lazy folks, we decided to take the downwards route hee... nearer to the carpark also!

We migrated towards the open barrier downwards and spoke to the ursher there about our intention. She was pleasent in reviewing that instructions were given to her to allow the folks from the ground levels to clear first before allowing those from the higher levels (us) to clear. It makes perfect sense to just wait for a short moment to avoid chaos.

Soon the stairway was filled with patrons waiting to exit from the downwards exit.

Then a loud male voice came from behind us:" Don't be ridculous!", before I knew it, I was being pushed to the side by this very same man. He must have bashed through a few people to get to the front of the barrier, with an arm, he shove the ursher aside and walked off!

The poor girl was out of balance and fell backwards down the steps. Luckily she was grabbed by other patrons closer to her and she did not suffer any injuries other than a serious fright.

Can you guess who this person was? He is a medical doctor who specialises in cosmetic surgery and is even nominated for Spirit of Enterprise's top 40 honor roll. How can a person be so rude and obnoxious? Especially someone whose face is pretty well-known?

I took that opportunity to call out to him from the crowd as he swiftly mingled into and told him about the pushing of the ursher. He walked away without turning his head. When Ad questioned his gentlemen behaviour, he turned his head around and glared at us. Nope, he was not apologetic about the disturbance that he caused, neither did he think that he was being RUDE!

so tell me, do we get uglier as humans as we become famous or more senior in work places? I would like to know if its just these two folks or is it a nation-wide syndrome that I should be aware of, I want to know how to prevent myself from being such an ugly person in another 20yrs down the road......